Why Self-Awareness is the First Step to Naked Confidence™

Updated: Nov 7, 2020

Self-awareness is the first step.

This is a fundamental principle of my coaching, and also the First Pillar of my "Banish Imposter Syndrome and Discover Naked Confidence™" Programme.

But what is self-awareness, and why do I believe it matters so much?

1. Self-awareness is the foundation of change

With self-awareness, you can recognise where you are now with clear eyes, really gaining a true understanding of which parts of your career and mindset are fulfilling, sustaining, and empowering you.

Plus recognising to what extent you are feeling limited, crippled or undermined by your current situation and thought patterns.

This awareness of your starting point is vital because it provides you with the motivation to change.

And it also gives you a direction for that change, even if, at the start, it is only “away from” where you are now.

Having a positive direction to change towards is important, but that comes as part of the process.

Often we start with an “away from” motivation: “I don’t want to not fit into my dresses” or “I don’t want to be puffed out from running for the bus”.

This is a natural and human response: we are strongly programmed to move away from things that cause us pain.

But that “away from” reflex only lasts as long as the pain lasts.

If you want to create real, lasting change, you will choose to find a powerful “towards” motivation”.

And that too comes from self-awareness…

When you work with me, an important part of the process is to really choose to recognise where you are now.

It can be painful to acknowledge how much your limiting beliefs and negative internal voice is damaging you, your confidence, and your career.

But it is done in the context of recognising that this is the start of a new chapter.

I can offer hope that you will learn how to change these feelings through our work together.

I will support you every step of the way.

And when you truly see where you are now, it is a powerful motivator for you to take inspired action through our coaching journey.

Ripping off the plaster can be painful.
But you need to let light and air into the wound for it to properly heal.

And I do know what it’s like.

When I first realised I had been thinking myself into chronic fatigue for over 15 years, with all the limitations that brought into my life, all those missed opportunities because I was stuck on the sofa, unable to do anything except watch endless episodes of House Doctor…

That was a painful realisation.

But recognising that I had thought myself into it also allowed me to believe I could think myself out of it.

That painful realisation was the start of my cure.

So self-awareness provides the catalyst to taking the necessary action to achieve the change you want.

2. Self-awareness supports lasting transformations

Self-awareness is a crucial part of the journey of change.

Through self-awareness we are able to recognise which actions we’re taking are having the most impact, and adjust our behaviour accordingly.

Through our time together you will do a wide variety of coaching techniques to address your Imposter Syndrome, limiting beliefs, and inner critic.

We will explore:

🔥 logical, factual analysis

🔥 powerful unconscious processes

🔥 self-reflective worksheets

🔥probing conversations

🔥 peaceful guided visualisations

🔥 insightful role plays

🔥 and lots of opportunities to practice what you’ve learned with tailored homework in between sessions.

Exactly which tools I use will depend on you and your personal circumstances - and everyone responds differently to them, some finding the unconscious work more powerful, for example, or others finding the conversations more transformational.

Your self-awareness will enable you to get the most out of these different techniques, enabling you to practice the ones that are delivering the most transformational change for you.

Plus self-awareness will enable you to see the cumulative impact of these techniques, as they gently but powerfully build and layer upon one another to deliver profound change.

Which brings us to the third aspect…

3. Self-awareness helps you recognise (and build on) your progress

When you struggle with Imposter Syndrome, you can find it hard to recognise and celebrate your achievements.

This is an unhelpful thought pattern that will only keep you small.

You will be having victories every single day, whether that’s:

🏆 responding well to difficult questions from the Board

🏆 completing a difficult report on time

🏆 or managing to remember to give your kids the right kit for school (that’s definitely one of mine)...

So the final part of self-awareness that we will work on will be learning to appreciate YOU.

✅ What you have done in your career to get you to this point - because you have done so well to get here.

✅ What you do daily to sustain yourself and your family (including all that emotional labour that so often gets unrecognised).

✅ And what you are achieving now through our coaching journey: the bravery of acknowledging that you want change; your commitment to the process; and above all, the amazing successes you see as a result of the action you are taking.

It is so important to recognise all of your achievements.

And to be able to own them.

They aren’t down to just luck.

They are the product of YOU: learning, growing, working hard, being resilient, and taking action.

And through our time together you will gain an honest appreciation of just what you’ve achieved: both before our time together, and through our work.

Think of what that would feel like, to be able to genuinely feel proud of yourself and your achievements, every day.

Because you deserve to.

And it all starts with self-awareness.

The Other Pillars of Naked Confidence

So that’s the first Pillar of my coaching Programme.

Over the next few weeks we will look at the other two Pillars:

Pillar Two: Self-empowerment: learning how to harness the incredible power of the mind to create an internal cheerleader and banish that inner critic so you can achieve anything.

Pillar Three: Self-fulfilment: understanding exactly what you want, how to get there, and the impact you want to make - while also recognising how to do this with balance, and without stress.  

Watch out for Self-empowerment next week!

Banish Imposter Syndrome and Build your Naked Confidence

If you’d like to Discover Your Naked Confidence™ through my three Pillars, using them as rocket fuel to power you to succeed in the career of your dreams... you feel empowered and resilient, balanced and courageous 💖💪


In 7 sessions over three months we will work through the Three Pillars, using the tools I outline above, so that you finish the Programme with unshakeable self-belief, and the confidence & skills to succeed at the highest level (with the financial rewards to match).

Intro call

The first step is for you to book a free 45 minute intro call with me, either by emailing me or booking into my calendar.

During that call I find out about you, your specific situation and your goals. 

You get more understanding about me, the way I work, and how I can help you achieve those goals. 

And we can both decide if we "fit".  (Successful coaching is two-way relationship, the "fit" has to be right for us both.)

I will also give you the opportunity to experience one of my powerful mindset exercises, as an insight into the kind of transformation that is possible when we work together.

Then if we decide to work together, we can set a date for our first session!

So if you've been waiting for the right time to tackle your Imposter Syndrome once and for all - it's now.

Book your free intro call by emailing me ( or booking into my calendar here.

Wishing you a positive, productive and Nakedly Confident week! 😃🔥💪

with love

Kirsten xx

p.s. don't forget that link to book into my calendar is here 😊