Best laid plans...
It's been a while since my last blog - my longest gap in a few years.
I ended up overbooked and overdone this summer, and I'm afraid this is one of the things that slipped...
So this week's blog is going to be all about how I am getting myself back on track!
We've got 3 precious months before the craziness of Christmas really kicks off.
I want to #Finish2021Strong!
Read on to find out how I plan to do this - and how you can too...
1️⃣ Accept and forgive
For me, things did not go to plan this summer.
Don't get me wrong, we had a lovely family time with lots of trips away - but my plans to maintain my business during this time went awry.
I've now got two choices:
❌ beat myself up about this
✅ or accept what happened, and forgive myself.
Guess which ones lays the best foundations for moving forward...
I'm now pretty good at accepting when things haven't gone to plan, without beating myself up about it forever - but I wasn't always.
And sometimes it can still be hard...
So one of the most useful techniques I've found to help with this is tapping (also known as EFT).
Take a quiet moment, and then say to yourself the following:
"Even though I [insert thing you regret], I deeply and completely love and accept myself."
And while you are repeating this, you tap some accupressure points on your head and heads, in a particular sequence.
You can do 3-10 taps per point, it doesn't have to be exact - and it doesn't matter which hand/ side of your head and face you tap:
karate chop point on the hand (in the middle of the outside edge)
middle of the forehead (third eye)
underneath the eye on the eye bone in the middle
middle of the top lip (on the dimple)
middle of the crease of the chin
middle of one collarbone
middle of the top of the head
This might be a bit more "woo woo" than you're used to, but I've found it really helpful, and so have my clients! So give it a go.
Then after you have accepted where you are, and forgiven yourself for any perceived shortcomings, it's time to move on to the next stage...
2️⃣ Lessons learned
I've written about one of my favourite coaching mantras before:
"There is no failure, only feedback."
So use this experience as an opportunity for learning.
What went wrong?
What went right?
What would you repeat or add?
What would you not do, or do differently?
It's so worth doing this, because the chances are you will be in a similar situation again in the future (I know this to be true when it comes to school holidays!).
Remember that definition of madness - taking the same action and expecting a different outcome...
So take this opportunity to identify those lessons, and learn from them.
(And if you start feeling regretful or guilty during this process, go back to step 1 - accept and forgive! "Why oh whys..." don't get you anywhere.)
Then it's time to put the past to bed, and focus on the future, my favourite bit!
3️⃣ Reignite the flame
I'll admit, I found it hard to get my brain back into gear those first few days.
Normally I spring out of bed before my alarm, eager to get into the day! But I wasn't even waking up on my first alarm...
So I took action to re-motivate myself:
a. I remembered my "WHY"
I am a career coach, trainer and business owner for very good reasons:
✅ I want to contribute financially to my family;
✅ I want to be a good role model for my daughter;
✅ I want the intellectual and emotional satisfaction it brings;
✅ and I want to make a positive difference in the world!
How lucky am I that I have a job where I get to achieve all that?!
So, what's your WHY...?