How to #Finish2020Strong by Choosing Which Dream to Pursue

Following last week's post (How to #Finish2020Strong with 3 Steps to a Fresh Start), you now have your DREAMS of what you want to achieve by the end of 2020.

(And if you don't, revisit the post to discover them... 😉 )

❓But do you try to achieve all of them?

❓Or do you focus in on a few, or even one?

❓How do you know which dream to follow?

Because as Colin Powell said,

"A dream doesn't become reality through magic; it takes sweat, determination and hard work."

So where do you focus that determination and hard work?

This week's blog post will help...

I have two different approaches for you to follow.

1. The Pareto Principle

You will already be familiar with the Pareto principle: the 80/20 rule, that states that the 20% of your effort will lead to 80% of your results.

It was originally defined by management consultant Joseph M. Juran in the 1940s, when he observed its application in business.

But he actually found it in the work of an Italian economist Vilfredo Pareto, who first observed in 1896 that 80% of the land in Italy was owned by 20% of the population. He then applied this principle to other countries, and found it applied there too.

This principle, summed up by Muran as "the vital few and the trivial many" (later softened to "the useful many"), has since been applied to fields as varied as sales, health and safety, and baseball.

And it's been found to apply equally there. For example, in relation to computer science:

  • 20% of any code usually has 80% of the total errors

  • if you fix the top 20% of the most reported bugs, 80% of related issues will be fixed as a result

  • and it's even been found that writing 80% of the code will take 20% of your total coding time (while the remaining difficult 20% will take 80% of your time).

So it is time for you to apply this to your DREAMS!

Which 20% of your dreams is going to give you 80% of your results?

This is all about understand the result that achieving your dreams will give you.

And that result is how you will FEEL/ THINK/ SEE THE WORLD once you've achieved them.

People don't usually want money to collect piles of paper and metal: they want the FEELING you get from the stuff money can buy - including power, and choice.

For example, if your dreams were to:

  • make x more money

  • have y more clients

  • have achieved z projects

or even

  • have been on x number of holidays

  • have bought y objects you've really wanted

  • had z more time to do the things you've really wanted with your family.

Ask yourself:

❓Which of these goals is going to give you the greatest sense of satisfaction and achievement?

❓Which of these is going to make you happiest?

❓Which of these is going to make you feel/ think/ see that you did #Finish2020Strong most?


Don't dilute your effort by trying to do too many things at once.

Remember the lesson of the Pareto principle: all goals are not equal.

Achieving some goals will have more positive impact than others...

2. Hierarchy of goals

This is an alternative method to help you choose between your dreams, using a very powerful tool: your intuition.

(I use this with my clients on everything from which job to choose to which aspects of your career are most important to you to where to buy a house or what you look for in a partner.)

The process is as follows:

  • Have your list of dreams ready where you can see it, plus a pen and paper. Hold your hands out in front of you, palms facing up.

  • Then mentally, imaginatively, place one of your dreams in one hand, and a different dream in the other hand.

  • Weigh them up! Which one feels most important, or valuable? Which one would make you feel most that you did #Finish2020Strong?

  • Once you know (and you will know...), write them in that order on a piece of paper.

  • Then swap out one of those goals, placing a new goal in that hand instead. Weigh that new goal up against the first goal still in your other hand. Remember the result.

  • Then exchange that first goal still in your hand with the other goal from the first set, and weigh that against the new goal. You will now know where that new goal sits relative to the first two - write it down.

  • And repeat for as long as you need to, until you have a clear hierarchy of goals!

Occasionally you might find that two goals weigh equally, but most of the time you will have a clear preference.

This is such a simple exercise, but the results are so compelling.

Through it, you will allow your intuition - your unconscious - to tell you which of the dreams is most important to you.

Try it and see!


So last week:

  • you started by laying a great foundation to move forward by dealing with your immediate past: both recognising and remembering the good bits; and letting go of the bad bits.

  • then you allowed ourselves to dream! You dreamed (without allowing our inner critic to interfere) of where you wanted to be by the end of 2020.

And this week:

  • you have taken those dreams and prioritised them using either of both of the methods above, so you have one clear, overarching dream.

  • And you now feel confident that if (when!) you achieve that dream, you will feel/think/see that you have indeed managed to #Finish2020Strong - whatever that means to you.


Dreams don't come true. Goals do.

So next week, we will be turning our one prioritised dream into a goal - so that we can take the action we need to make it come true.

If you've enjoyed this process of helping you #Finish2020Strong, my new Group Coaching Programme is launching on Thursday 2nd July.

Over 6 monthly sessions (July to December), you will get:

  • one 30 minute 1:1 coaching call, to help you set your goals

  • individualised personalised attention every month to keep you accountable

  • expert support and advice on how to achieve your goals, including productivity tips and overcoming procrastination and limiting beliefs

  • plus a private WhatsApp group for support and motivation between sessions.

If you're interested, email me to get on the waiting list:

And good luck with achieving your goals! 💪

Wishing you strength and positivity so you can #Finish2020Strong 💖

Kirsten xx

p.s. don't forget, if you want support to #Finish2020Strong, my new Group Coaching Programme launches next week - places are limited to ensure individual attention, so get in touch to book your space: